The Art of Losing: On Writing, Dying, & Mom


In Shambhala Sun Magazine, March 2008, print and online editions. Note: The online edition does not include the accompanying photo essay.

Reprinted in Melvin McLeod, editor, Best Buddhist Writing of 2009, Shambhala (October 13, 2009).

What is the difference between losing and letting go? What makes losing feel like such a disaster? On an obvious level, it’s about control. When I let go, I’m in control; when I lose, I’m not. Letting go is a willful act; losing, a violation of my will.

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